Monthly Archives: November 2018

Really want that job? Don’t make these six mistakes

It’s hard enough applying for a job, let alone applying for one that truly means the world to you. But, whatever job you apply for, especially if it’s super important to you, keep the following things in mind. Although you don’t really want to play hard to get, neither do you want to throw yourself at your beloved’s feet, with HR standing in for the beloved in this case. Don’t oversell and come on too strong, as it will be just as likely to send HR running as it would a potential beloved. Also, don’t be so eager to get a word in edge-wise that you rattle on and answer questions that no one thought to ask. This too is a turn off and suggests that your focus is not the best. Don’t make a point of saying yes to everything. It’s desperate, insincere, and keeps your brain under wraps. Remember you don’t have the job yet and don’t show up unannounced to follow up on our ‘chat,’ or assume a casual atmosphere means you can kick off your shoes and slurp on your drink. If you did your due diligence well and good. It’s important to know about a company. But, if in your meanderings you came across posts and data that was clearly not office-related, keep it to yourself. You’ll seem rude and intrusive, lacking in boundaries and even a bit spooky if you arrive saying, “how did Aunt Trudie’s operation go?” In short be engaging, witty, knowledgeable and approachable and polite. Ask questions and listen to what you are told. Treat it like a business meeting and you will go a long way to putting your best foot forward.

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Why Prosperity Has Increased but Happiness Has Not

One would assume that there is a correlation between happiness and prosperity. But statistics do not bear this out. Economy-wise, people have more goods and prospects than of yore. Yet their happiness quotient is the same, or marginally less, for many. It seems to have something to do with context. If you are in a locality where everyone is doing badly, it may not be so notable to you that you are doing not so well. On the other hand, if you have a calamity that leaves you fiscally in a lurch, while others appear to go on without turmoil, you are of course not happy. We are, logically, or not, creatures that compare our circumstances and selves with others. And there is nowadays, more than ever, lots of ways to do just that. Happiness too is relative. It is very dependent on what we see and know about our surroundings and what we have experienced in the past.

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Hustle is for amateurs (do these 8 things instead)

Perhaps you have a list of things to get done that strikes you as out and out daunting. So, you start to move and jerk and flap, more or less like a frenzied chicken, in short you hustle. While it’s an option, it isn’t particularly efficient. You’re just as likely to finish your list by proceeding calmly from one item to the next. It may take a while. But, in the end you will have observable finished tasks, done correctly, to your specifications. In short, you will have achieved your needed results. So, why hustle? It may be that something about expending maximum effort makes us believe the effort is more valid. It isn’t. Like a tantrum, a hustle draws attention to the effort as if to brag “look at me.” But though a hustle may seem impressive, it is not output, merely copious input, ultimately showy, but not useful. Besides being inefficient, hustle leads to burnout. Hustle is based on childlike, magical thinking, as in if I run around and put everything into my effort I can not help but succeed, or at least not be blamed if I do not. Workers that refuse to rely on hustle are trusting their own abilities to do the job and refusing to lean on magical thinking. Hustle also refuses to back up and see where this is all going. Big picture thinking is antithetical to an excess of chicken-flapping hustle activity. Nor does it aid in proficiency, which is achieved by meticulously doing and redoing a thing until it becomes second nature, a thing not doable under hustle-mode. In short, forgo the hustle. Breathe. Get busy, slowly and constructively. Just do.

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Here’s how elite performers silence negative self-talk

One of the most important life lessons that many people never learn is to not assume that their own thoughts are always true. Our own thoughts and “self-talk” often try to keep us in the past, because the subconscious craves sameness and predictability. Embracing this tendency, though, can be very self-limiting. Learn to embrace ambiguity in order to unlock your creative problem-solving abilities, and go on the offense whenever you can. Always make sure you focus more on how good you want to be in the future more than on how good you are or were.

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The job market is so good, candidates aren’t even showing up for interviews

In the past year, people in human resource departments have seen a sharp increase in the amount of job seekers who schedule a time to be interviewed but then do not show up when the date and time arrive. This could be due to the US unemployment rate dipping to its biggest low for the first time in 18 years. Job candidates have far more choices now which often lead to abrupt changes in their search for employment.

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